I'm being abused by my partner

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If you’re being abused by your partner and you’re reading this webpage you’ve already taken an important step. Domestic abuse can take many forms including physical, sexual, psychological or financial abuse. Domestic abuse is often very controlling and manipulative. Not all victims of domestic abuse are women; many victims are men and children.

Even though it may feel like it, you are not alone and no matter what your circumstances, there are organisations and people that can help you. At least 1 in 4 women experience domestic violence in their lifetime and between 1 in 8 and 1 in 10 women experience it annually.Less than half of all incidents are reported to the police, but they still receive one domestic violencecall every minute in the UK.

Get help now

Please note that not all of the telephone numbers listed below offer a 24 hour response service.

Contact the 24 hour National Domestic Violence Helpline on telephone 08082000247. You can also email helpline@womensaid.org.uk. For more advice and information visit the Women’s Aid website.

If you feel you want to talk to someone about your experiences but don't know where to go, the Counselling Directory opens in a new window website is a great place to start. The site lists all the registered counsellors and psychotherapists in your area and also contains help and advice.

If you live in Torbay and need information, advice, a safe place to go or emergency accommodation for you and your children telephone 01803 524594.

You can also contact Devon and Cornwall Police Domestic Abuse Unit on 01803 841469 or the Domestic Abuse Support Service on 01803 217614.

There is also a website called The Hideout which is specifically for children that may be suffering because of an abusive relationship within the family.

To speak with someone at SEEDS, a reference group for survivors of domestic abuse, telephone 0845 053 5627.

More contacts

Pattern Changing Programme for Women – telephone 0845 053 5627
- Domestic Abuse courses for female survivors of abuse.
Children's Group – telephone 0845 053 5627
- Domestic Abuse programme for children who have experienced domestic abuse
Torbay Council Housing Needs Team– telephone 01803 208723
Torbay Council Children's Services– telephone 01803 208100

National Advice Lines

Men's Advice Helpline - telephone 0808 801 0327
Asian Women Against Domestic Violence – telephone 0121 693 6145
Bharosa Asian Women’s Helpline – telephone 0121 303 0368
Southall Black Sisters - telephone 020 8571 9595
Jewish Womens’s Aid – telephone 0800 591 203
Broken Rainbow Network - support for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender people experiencing domestic abuse – telephone 0300 999 5428
Childline – telephone 0800 1111 (24 hour)
Domestic Violence Legal Helpline – telephone 0800 5870 209
RSPCA petsafe (fostering scheme for pets of families fleeing domestic abuse) – telephone 07715 540 182
Shelter - housing advice helpline – telephone 0808 800 444
NHS Direct - health advice and information - telephone 0845 46 47
Respect (for perpetrators of abuse) - telephone 0845 122 8609
Women's Aid - for domestic abuse advice and information – telephone 0808 2000 247

Check out our film

Safer Communities Torbay has produced a short film about domestic abuse.

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Devon and Cornwall Police has launched a Facebook campaign to raise awareness of domestic abuse amongst young people in relationships. Visit the Is this love? opens in a new window page to support the campaign.

Check out our film

Safer Communities Torbay has produced a short film about domestic abuse. To download a transcript of the film click here.

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